Do not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives. Such striving may seem admirable, but it is a way of foolishness. Help them instead to find the wonder and the marvel of an ordinary life. Show them the joy of tasting tomatoes, apples, and pears. Show them how to cry when pets and people die. Show them the infinite pleasure in the touch of a hand. And make the ordinary come alive for them. The extraordinary will take care of itself.
After the party, those who came receives something “to go”, mostly food. The food is overflowing; the best thing to do is to waste not and ask the guests to take them home. Apart from the “to go”, there’s the … Continue reading →
The way I have a party is to have an open house. The best place for it is here in WordPress. This will give every body a chance to come to the party. Peace requires no invitation. It’s a given. … Continue reading →
What’s up?One colleague constantly asks me: What’s Up?Being English is my second or maybe third language, I take this question literally. I look up and the response I give him is: the ceiling, the light, the air blower or anything that’s above me. He seems to get a kick out of these answers.Yesterday, we were outside and he asked me the same question. And I look up and said: blue sky.Yes, 26 straight days of blue sky, hardly any clouds in the sky. I love the blue sky but I cannot tolerate being in the sun. I would think coming from a tropical place close to the equator would make me immune to the sunshine hoping that the dark pigmentation of my skin will deflect all the UV rays. It does but I’d sooner be in the shade.In the meantime, the grassy area of the board is covered with white bodies trying to soak up the sun.I hope they are wearing Sunscreen.
This post is inspired by Claudia ~ July Peace Post.
Dear Ann: Please repeat your column. The Ten Commandments of How to Get Along with People. I read it every day for years whenever I opened the medicine cabinet, and as you can see, my copy is faded and torn. – Faithful in Florida.
Dear Florida: Here it is. Thanks for asking.
1. Keep skid chains on your tongue. Always say less than you think. Cultivate a low, persuasive voice. How you say it often counts more than what you say.
2. Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully, no matter what the cost.
3. Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody. Praise good work regardless of who did it.
4. Be interested in others: their pursuits, their work, their homes and their families. Make merry with those who rejoice; with those who weep, mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you regard him as a person of importance.
5. Be cheerful. Don’t burden or depress those around you by dwelling on your aches and pains and small disappointments. Remember, everyone is carrying some kind of burden.
6. Keep an open mind. Discuss but don’t argue. It is a mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.
7. Let your virtues, if you have any, speak for themselves. Refuse to talk about the vices of others. Discourage gossip. It is a waste of valuable time and can be destructive and hurtful.
8. Take into consideration the feelings of others. Wit and humor at the expense of another is never worth the pain that may be inflicted.
9. Pay no attention to ill-natured remarks about you. Remember the person who carried the message may not be the most accurate reported in the world. Simply live so that nobody will believe him. Disordered nerves and bad digestion are a common cause of back biting.
10. Don’t be anxious about the credit due you. Do your best and be patient. Forget about yourself and let others “remember.” Success is much sweeter that way.
Sit back, relax, breath in and out and let the music sink into your being as you watch the following Art that depicts peace.
Peace be with you Pax TecumAssalm Ayakhumالسلامعليكمque la paix soit avec vousשלוםלהיותאיתךla pace sia con voiмира будет с вамиสันติภาพจะอยู่กับคุณvrede zij met uFriede sei mit dirशांतितुम्हारेसाथहोdamai dengan Anda平和はあなたと一緒にpokój z wamila paz sea con vosotros和平与你同在Barış seninle olsunkapayapaan sa iyoειρήνη να είναι μαζί σαςamani na awe nanyiامنآپکےساتھRauha teille
The monthly Peace Challenge for the month of March 2013 is about Marching Towards Forgiveness.Forgiveness is just a not a word for me. I can only forgive through action. I can think about it, I can meditate about, I can wish about it; none of these would work for me. I can only show it. And here is a great story about forgiveness.As John Paul II took the hand of his would-be-assassin, he showed us that a Christian must forgive his enemies, even when they do not want forgiveness.One of the bullets that struck John Paul II remains in the crown of the statue of the Blessed Virgin Mary at Fatima, Portugal.By Brother Randall J. Meissen, LC 4/27/2011 JohnPaulMoments.com (johnpaulmoments.com)ROME, Italy (John Paul Moments) – On December 27, 1983, as John Paul II sat in a bare, whitewashed jail cell of Rome’s Rebibbia prison, he was unprepared for the question voiced by an unshaven prisoner to his side, “So why aren’t you dead?”Why aren’t you dead?Death had appeared all but certain to bystanders when three bullets fired by Turkish gunman Mehmet Ali Agca tore through the pope’s flesh on May 13, 1981, staining the pope’s white cassock with deathly scarlet.Ali Agca was a professional assassin, he had aimed at close range, and he had aimed well. But somehow, the bullets missed lethal targets, one grazing the pope’s right elbow, and another deflecting off his left index finger before passing through his abdomen, a fraction of an inch from a major artery.By John Paul II’s assessment, “It was a mother’s hand that guided the bullet’s path,” and permitted that “the dying Pope. stopped on the threshold of death.” The assassination attempt had taken place on the feast of Our Lady of Fatima, and the pope had no doubt that his survival was due to the intervention of the Blessed Virgin Mary. In gratitude, the Pope gave one of the deadly bullets to the bishop in charge of the shrine at Fatima, Portugal. To this day, that bullet remains in the crown of the statue of the Blessed Virgin Mary housed at that shrine.However, as John Paul II sat at the side of his would-be-assassin, Ali Agca expressed fears that this Lady of Fatima might come after him next. The pope stated the contrary; he himself had come to forgive, not to harm. But Ali Agca did not ask for forgiveness. Thus, as the pope took the hand of the gunman, he showed us that a Christian must forgive his enemies, even when they do not want forgiveness.
We need you.Yes, You. February 27, 2013 is PINK SHIRT DAY. Wear Pink.What is Pink Shirt Day?Pink Shirt Day is inspired by two grade 12 Nova Scotian students in 2007 who decided to take action after witnessing a grade 9 student being bullied for wearing a pink shirt to school. The students bought 50 pink t-shirts and encouraged schoolmates to wear them and send a powerful message of solidarity to the bully. Six years later, the Pink Shirt Day campaign continues to raise awareness and provide education and funds for anti-bullying programs in BC and Western Canada. (source: CKNW and CBC),Support, stand up and be counted.Pink Shirt, pink tie, pink ribbon, pink shoes, pink hair, pink tutu, you name it.Wearing pink is showing your Love, Acceptance, Respect and to STOP any negativity towards one another. I am pretty in pink. See for yourself. 😀
A homeless 13-year-old Filipino won a very prestigious award for his commitment to improving the lives of fellow street kids. Cris “Kesz” Valdez, who lived off a trash dump and slept in an open tomb for the majority of his childhood, was awarded last year’s International Children’s Peace Prize in The Hague on September 19, 2012.Gifts of HopeFor his seventh birthday, Kesz didn’t want any presents for himself. Instead, he wanted to give something to other street children: Gifts of Hope. That same year, Kesz started his own organization, Championing Community Children, aimed at giving street children hope and showing them that they can take their future into their own hands. Every week, he and his friends go to underprivileged communities to teach children about hygiene, food and children’s rights. He even takes things a step further, by teaching children how to teach each other. He has so far helped more than 10,000 children in his local area. Source: International Childrens Peace Prize.Kesz was presented with the prize by Desmond Tutu. According to Desmond Tutu, Kesz is a deserving and inspiring example of “a new voice for the voiceless”.Spread this video Spread hope Spread peacePeace by acting – summer4soul B4Peace
The Master held that no words were bad if they were used in an right context. When he was told that one of his disciples was given to swearing, he remarked, “Profanity has been known to offer spiritual relief denied to prayer.” — Anthony de Mello, SJMORSEL: If you judge people, you have no time to love them. — Mother TeresaBONUS MORSEL: Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. — Frank Outlaw
On the way home last night, I went to Church for Lenten blessing. It’s just like Christmas on Ash Wednesday. It was a crowded service. I can only assume we came to Church to be redeemed and be forgiven for all the “sins” we have committed in our thoughts, words and deeds.I went to be reminded that I am a mere mortal being, impermanent on this Earth and to receive the sign on my forehead. This sign is given by the Priest. He dipped his thumb in an ash, made a sign of the cross on my forehead and told me “Remember that you are dust, and to dust you shall return.” This line is derived from the story of how God made Adam, from a pile of dirt. Then I went home with a dirt mark while people stare at me with puzzled look. And I just smiled.Meditating while walking and what came up to mind is the heart. Is the heart the most important part of the body? How come I have only one heart? I have two hands, feet, eyes, lungs, ears; a pair of lungs, left and right hemisphere of the brain, etc. It must be valentines, I brush off my thoughts.It’s a good thing that they came up with Valentine’s Day to distract people from the history of Valentine. Personally, it’s my father’s death anniversary. We will have a Celebration of Life but I won’t be able to make it due to work obligations. I know, it’s only once a year. Father will understand. I do keep him in my prayers.My offering to you for Valentines is this heart:
For Catholics, today is Ash Wednesday, first day of Lent. It is a period of reflection living Lent. It is a time of prayer. It’s about dying to our self, all that negative attitude and thoughts.In one of my retreats, Lent was defined as: L – Lets E – Eliminate N – Negative T – ThoughtsHaving said that, I learned to use soft words, less on exclamation point to make a point, bite my tongue. For those who are familiar with cognitive behaviour, this is what they teaches in the course. It all makes sense to me.This period is not all about me; it’s all about God whoever you conceive him to be, from Abba to Zen. They said God lives in us. Can you see the reflection of God in another person? Or let’s not even mention God. Can you see the goodness of a person?You see, I believe that we are all inherently good.Since you told me in my post Tell me and I will tell you mine, I will tell you the title of this list: Fasting and Feasting. I choose Feasting. Instead of giving up, I will give in and listen to the prompting of God.I will leave you with something to think about, a poem:“I shall pass this way but once; any good that I can do or any kindness I can show to any human being; let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again. “ Etienne de Grellet (1773-1855); Quaker missionarySomething to read: We can make a difference right now A Genie in a bottle or 12 steps program Kindness of a stranger
This is in response to Daily Prompt: Teachable Moment.You have to learn a new skill. Do you prefer to read about it, watch someone else does it, hear someone describe it, or try it yourself?From time to time, at work, we are cross trained and switch duties. At the beginning of this year, I switched duties with someone in our team. As for teachable moments, all of the above is how I learn. Just reading the “how to manual of procedures” doesn’t cut it, because the manual is written after the fact that it has been tried.Even people in higher level, when I explain a certain process to them, I’m asked “show me”. If nobody shows me the proper process, I am bound to make mistakes at work. And I could easily say “not my fault, I wasn’t trained or nobody told me”. I dislike saying this statement; therefore, all of the above. Show and tell; then read the manual.I just remembered a beautiful poem about when children learn and here it is:Children Learn What They Live If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy If a child lives with jealousy, he learns to feel guilt BUT If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident If a child lives with praise, he learns to be appreciative If a child lives with acceptance, he learns to love If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves If a child lives with honesty, he learns what truth is If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice If children live with recognition, they learn to have a goal If children live with sharing, they learn to be generous If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith in himself and those about him If a child lives with friendliness, he learns the world is a nice place in which to liveWITH WHAT IS YOUR CHILD LIVING
In my site, there is no badge on Bloggers for Peace because I did not join. I mentioned to Kozo, if it’s okay to write just about it. Request accepted. I am not much of a joiner, follower or a member of any kind of organization. I am not even a registered member of the church I go to. The reason being, my belief is we are all One Body, One Mind. By default, I am a member, no need to sign up.Whew, now I have said, I feel peaceful. Ah….A few years ago, I volunteered as a Big Sister for one of the students at False Creek Elementary School. My little sister’s name is Megan. We were sisters for at least three years.What I want to touch upon is how I valued the school’s R.U.L.E.S. It stands for:R – Respect U – Understanding L – Learning E – Education S – SafetyThe school has a Code of Behaviour: Keeping our school safe, healthy, happy and a productive place to learn. These are basic rules that elementary students understand. It is a basic training on growing up as a future peacemaker.I remember when I was in elementary, we were taught Good Manners and Right Conduct in a public school. The title of the program is different from today’s education but in essence it’s the same principle.Since religion is not part of the curriculum in a public school, it teaches peace and compassion. Recently, I received an e-newsletter about children’s choir. I’ve asked for permission if it’s okay to share it. Request granted.In my own personal opinion, we have to teach peace early to our children. I don’t have any children. Megan, my little sister, was the only child I became closed to at the school and we had so much fun in our peaceful ways.Here’s the video of the children singing just one candle for peace.And here is my candle for everyone.What does it take to be peaceful articles:Love is the answerA call to service
A week from now, Wednesday, February 13, 2013, is the beginning of abstaining from what we like most for 40 days and 40 nights.When I ask the kids what they will give up, they normally choose chocolate, candy, pop, television, Facebook (right!), etc.On a higher scale, Patricia from Called by Joy provided this list to give us other ideas.Give up worry – trust Divine Providence Give up discouragement – be full of hope Give up bitterness – turn to forgiveness Give up complaining – focus on gratitude Give up pessimism – become an optimist Give up harsh judgments – think kind thoughts Give up hatred – return good for evil Give up negativism – be positive Give up anger – be more patient Give up pettiness – become mature Give up gloom – enjoy the beauty that is all around you Give up jealousy – pray for trust Give up gossiping – control your tongue Give up sin – turn to virtue Give up giving up – hang in thereLet’s pretend for the sake of this prompt, more importantly, for the sake of Daily Peace, what will you give up? Tell me and I will you mine.
The word is Acceptance.
It doesn’t take too much to become excited when it comes to children of the world especially the students.
The evening news the other night caught my attention and I immediately went on Global TV on-line to get the link. Shared it on my Face Book and the next thing, my friends are commenting and sharing the video. The video has now gone viral according to the news.
First thing I did at work was shared this to my peers. And Diana responded saying that her daughter is somewhere in that news. Oh gee, Diana, tell me more. Not much to tell because she did not attend Hockey Night in Canada.
I am very proud of these young generations for having the courage to dance in the largest crowd and wear pink to promote Anti-Bullying. It’s coming up soon next month, February. I am not so sure of the exact date.
School is not just all about studying, the Board also teaches the kids the basic of life so that they may learn to be compassionate, kind, loving to any a few. I am hoping these students will create a peaceful generation.Enjoy the video and here’s the Global TV News link should you want to read all about it.
Global TV BC – Vancouver School Kids Stage Anti-Bullying Flash Mob at a Giant’s Game.
As part of human process, there are times it’s difficult to have an inward peaceful disposition. If that is the case, for me, I look up to others and listen to what they are communicating to me.I listened to JFK’s famous Inaugural Address. It was on this day, January 20, 1961. And I quote “And so, my fellow Americans: ask not what your country can do for you—ask what you can do for your country.” courtesy of Britannica. To hear it, click on JFK delivering his inaugural Address.This speech is equally applicable to all nations, not just USA.I played this over and over to truly deeply understand based on my upbringing and personal belief. I zeroed in on words that are meaningful to me:
Prophet summons us
Call to Service
For all mankind
Rejoicing in hope, patience and tribulation
And I translate these to: God Calls me to be of Service For All Mankind. Rejoicing in hope with patience even in times of tribulation.With this in mind, I part you with a Peace Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi. He was just a man whom the Prophet Called him to be of Service for All Mankind, always rejoicing the Glory of God.